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Facts have no bias.
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From the Dork Tower mothership! Hey, come visit us sometime!
How To Read A 223-Page Novel In Just 77 Minutes
Spritz is a company that makes a speed-reading technology which allows you to get through a mass of text, reading every word, in a fraction of the time it would take if you were turning the pages of a book or swiping through a Kindle.
The basis of Spritz concept is that much of the time spend reading is “wasted” on moving your eyes from side to side, from one word to the next. By flashing the words quickly, one after the other, all in the same place, eye movement is reduced almost to zero. All that’s left is the time you take to process the word before the next one appears.
The company is selling licenses for other companies who might want to use the technology in operating systems, applications, wearables, and websites. Obviously, the tiny screen of a smart watch instantly springs to mind.But the real revelation of Spritz is in trying it yourself.
A little something I threw together this weekend. A friend suggested I make buttons.
This is not my artwork, but it’s a very important piece of artwork if you love Disney and especially Disney Afternoon.
This is the original pitch painting created by my good friend Tad Stones for ‘Kit Colby and the Rescue Rangers’, a new concept he took to Michael Eisner and Jeffrey Katzenberg in the early development days of what became Disney Afternoon.
According to Tad, within 2 minutes Eisner said ‘take out that Kit guy, put the two chipmunks in instead’ and the rest is history.
As with any new show, it developed and evolved. Gadget got a little prettier, Monterey Jack got Kit’s dress sense and the Chinese cricket Chirp Sing thankfully didn’t survive long enough to age awkwardly into the PC era ;)
Camille the Chameleon was the idea of fellow Ducktales writer Jymn Magon.
This is an awesome painting and part of Disney television history and I thank Tad for his permission to upload it and share its story with y’all :)
Okay, here’s the thing: There is no right answer to this, because there’s really no single way to do it.
The way you phrased your question makes me suspect that you might have gotten pulled into a relationship structure you’re not comfortable in or wouldn’t have chosen to be in under other circumstances. Asking your partner/s to explore a new relationship structure with you is okay; unilaterally opening a relationship or coercing your partner/s into things they’re not okay with is not.
It’s also possible that you’re exploring this consensually, and it’s just not really working for you. That is also a thing that happens sometimes, and it’s really difficult, especially when it’s not parallel between partners. There’s not really a right answer to that one, either: sometimes people who love and want only the best for each other need different enough things from relationships that they can’t be together in a way that doesn’t significantly harm one or both of them, and that sucks, but it may be something you need to consider.
Here’s what I’d recommend, regardless your situation:
- Really, really look at your motivations, what you want, and why. If you feel pressured into opening a relationship, don’t. In context of a relationship, that’s not a decision that should be made unilaterally.
- Which is to say: If you take a close inventory and decide that you would rather be monogamous? That’s fine. There is no one-size-fits-all relationship structure: the best thing you can do is feel out what works for you.
- Know that it’s also not a one-time question, even within the same relationship. Be okay with that. Reexamine. Renegotiate. Check in with yourself and your partners regularly.
- Read like crazy. When I say “poly,” I’m talking about a super wide range of relationship structures: it’s about as specific as referring to someone’s religion as “non-Seventh Day Adventist.” Different people and different relationships’ comfort zones and rules and guidelines and practices vary a LOT: that one set doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean none will. Poly relationships are getting more visible, but when you live in a society where monogamy is the overwhelming default, sometimes you have to actively search out the language and concepts for other things. Give yourself time.
- Remember that what works for individuals within a relationship may vary. The Spouse’s default for relationships outside of ours is different from mine. That’s challenging sometimes, but it works for us. Your mileage may vary.
- COMMUNICATE. A lot. With partners, with prospective partners, and, most of all, with yourself. The kind of informed consent that a lot of nonmonogamous relationships require demands a pretty unflinching understanding of your own hard limits and comfort zones—and, again, remember that those might change, and that’s okay.
- ESTABLISH A COMMON LEXICON. I can’t emphasize this one enough, because I have shot myself in the foot with it more times than I prefer to admit. Because a lot of the language around nonmonogamy—really, around informed consent—involves terms appropriated and bastardized from other contexts, it’s really important to make sure that you and your partners are agreeing to the same things; and as you work out rules, make sure you are on the same page about whether you’re whitelisting—defining common guidelines by what is allowed—or blacklisting—defining they by what’s not. Practice reflective listening, and do a lot of “This is what X means to me. What does it mean to you?” back-and-forth. It will feel silly and forced. Get over it. It’s worth it.
- If you decide to seek counseling—individually, or with one or more partners—look for someone familiar with and friendly toward alternative relationship structures. There’s a (very partial) directory of poly-friendly professionals here, but don’t be shy about asking, either.
Finally, I want to share a concept I find incredibly useful in navigating those difficult spaces: acceptable discomfort. It’s a concept that exists outside of poly and other relational contexts, but they’re where I first encountered it, and they’re a space in which it consistently applies. For me, being poly means being okay with a degree of insecurity and jealousy and personal weirdness—not as things that are comfortable, but as things that I am comfortable navigating and riding out. Acceptable discomfort describes the level of discomfort where I can give and mean informed consent, but maybe need some space to work through my own feelings. It doesn’t mean consenting to things I am not okay with; it just means defining what I’m okay with trying as distinct from what’s comfortable. Acceptable discomfort is the ache of stretching a tight muscle, not the sharp pain of pushing through a serious injury.
There’s a popular myth, I think, that in good relationships, everything is always good or immediately solvable. I don’t think that’s true. And the idea of acceptable discomfort, to me, means having room to actually work shit out—or not, according to our own priorities.
If you weren’t aware of it before the past few weeks, even a passing interest in the recent Internet comics community likely informed you of the medical-expense-related plight a high-profile pair of comic book creators have been experiencing . First, there was Stan Sakai, the creator of Usagi Yojimbo, in dire straits because of an extended hospital stay for his wife, Sharon. Then there’s Bill Mantlo, the co-creator of Rocket Raccoon, who was severely injured in a skating accident 22 years ago and has required full-time care ever since. (He’s been under care for two decades, but Rocket’s appearance in the forthcoming Guardians of the Galaxy movie has brought him back into the public eye.)
Both of these men have had to turn to donations from fans and colleagues to help with their considerable expenses, and those people have made admirable efforts to help these creative artists whose work has brightened their lives. Generosity is a good thing. But it shouldn’t have to be this way.
This. Is. So. Important.
We love you, Ellen!
I’ve just listed this original Rocket Raccoon illustration over on Ebay.
They’re picky about how you list items for charity over there, so it’s not mentioned in the listing, but I’ll be donating the total price of this piece directly to Bill Mantlo’s ongoing care.
It’s an original pen-and-ink illustration with grayscale coloring on white 8.5”x11” cardstock. You can see and bid on the piece here, and let me know if you have any questions - thanks!
SIGNALBOOST: Over the weekend, bids on this piece rose to $150, which is pretty exciting (I’ll be throwing in a lot of freebies and extras for the winning bidder). I’d definitely like to get this before a few more pairs of eyes or, failing that, at least get some more people hepped to Bill Mantlo’s unfortunate circumstances, which you can read more about at the first link above.